So let’s say I’m getting married. Firstly we’d have covered the bit about I’d prefer to keep my name. I’ve dated men who haven’t found this terribly bothersome and I’ve dated others who have. Someone once asked why I couldn’t double-barrel my name. It’s like, as a woman who chooses to marry, you’re either destined […]

I take for granted that ‘foreign-ness’ affords one a safety blanket not available to locals. So as they laze on the beach, she nestles her head between another’s bosom and strokes her side with her middle finger in a rather suggestive manner and at no point does she stop to think if this makes them […]

all that I ask of you is to stay past the pain for the pleasure.” – Goapele and Dwele – “You”   I remember this today, as I wind down from my full day of classes, 2 presentations, and a mandatory seminar. All week I have been fretting about these two presentations, because I am […]

Dear Fellow Nigerian, I do not write this analysis just for fun but to bring to everyone’s attention, the personal and legal implications that the just recently passed Same Sex Marriage (Prohibition) Law (hereinafter referred to as SSMPL) has in store for us. This law just like every other one has two dominant factors, being […]

[This is a multi-part post. To read part 1 please click here] ‘’The Danger of A Single Story’ “Many stories matter. Stories have been used to dispossess and to malign. But stories can also be used to empower, and to humanize. Stories can break the dignity of a people. But stories can also repair that […]

*African Feminism(s) in Popular Culture* “From Miriam Makeba’s music to Oumou Sy’s fashion to Nike Ogundaike’s art, African feminists are at the forefront of using creativity to express that progressive thought is not only cerebral but also visceral and expressive.” *~ Minna Salami, MsAfropolitan* In March 2013, the African Women’s Development Fund (AWDF) and the […]

I formally came into feminism at university or rather I came to name my politics ‘as such’ during that time. But like many other young women of my generation, my formative understandings of, and identifications with feminism have over the years been shaped by popular culture. I think of the ways social media (and other […]

Gay was an obscure word until my first year in the University. I mean, in secondary school, I knew that girls did things to themselves in the dark in their hostels; my best girlfriend had written a long amused letter from her boarding school in Oyo State to tell me all about dykes and babes. […]